I once dated this really cute guy called Brad and I was kinda amazed at the things he said, not because it was coming from his charms or anything but because it was rather educational.
We were conversing about how I never go for anyone that’s out of my league, to which he told me about something which happened to him when he was back in the States. He never went for this dude cos he thought the ‘dude’ was outta his league but later he learnt that the ‘dude’ actually likes him.
The movie ‘She’s out of my league’ reminds me of that circle I used to draw around me. Despite the fun-chick-flick-meets-dorky-liner-plots genre of this movie, the big tits chick nanny from Sex and the City 2 and the cute newby dorky actor in this movie, the movie has some serious message to which I could clearly relate myself to.
I used to be so intimidated by ‘good looking’ people. Fortunately, I never hated them or got bitterly disgusted with their lifestyles. In fact, I just stood there daydreaming I was one of them but as soon as one of them would come and talk to me, I would either stutter or recite any fucked up lines from epic disaster flicks. That’s pretty much ok but it gets serious when I chucked a crush on these good looking people. The mentality that I would have to work so hard to get that ‘good looking’ person’s attention is pretty much throbbing whenever I get near a good looking specimen. The whole “self dissing chuckles” would fill the atmosphere and before you know it, you become just a ‘friend’ to someone who you think is too good looking to want to make you his/her significant other.
It’s the ugly circle we draw that drives them away actually, NOT the fact that they do not like you. Once you’ve program your mindset to thinking you’re not good enough for them, you set out this invisible vibe which yells out ‘I’m only good as your friend as long as I get to stare at your beauty’ to him/her. This somehow eases the tension and atmosphere between the two too well to the point the word ‘platonic’ is the only option to keep seeing this ‘out of your league’ person.
Listening to my friend from the States, I let down my guard and started taking ‘dating’ to another level where I would date on an equally leveled basis. He/she would be as cool/awesome as I am and the fact that he/she would not want to continue our relationship is due to the fact that we cannot click and not due to the fact that he/she is way more hotter/good looking than me. With that, I’ve been able to date people without feeling as much of a failure after every rejects and finally, I got myself one person on planet Earth who is pretty much comfortable to be IN my circle of this ‘league’ that we mostly fear.
We were conversing about how I never go for anyone that’s out of my league, to which he told me about something which happened to him when he was back in the States. He never went for this dude cos he thought the ‘dude’ was outta his league but later he learnt that the ‘dude’ actually likes him.
The movie ‘She’s out of my league’ reminds me of that circle I used to draw around me. Despite the fun-chick-flick-meets-dorky-liner-plots genre of this movie, the big tits chick nanny from Sex and the City 2 and the cute newby dorky actor in this movie, the movie has some serious message to which I could clearly relate myself to.
I used to be so intimidated by ‘good looking’ people. Fortunately, I never hated them or got bitterly disgusted with their lifestyles. In fact, I just stood there daydreaming I was one of them but as soon as one of them would come and talk to me, I would either stutter or recite any fucked up lines from epic disaster flicks. That’s pretty much ok but it gets serious when I chucked a crush on these good looking people. The mentality that I would have to work so hard to get that ‘good looking’ person’s attention is pretty much throbbing whenever I get near a good looking specimen. The whole “self dissing chuckles” would fill the atmosphere and before you know it, you become just a ‘friend’ to someone who you think is too good looking to want to make you his/her significant other.
It’s the ugly circle we draw that drives them away actually, NOT the fact that they do not like you. Once you’ve program your mindset to thinking you’re not good enough for them, you set out this invisible vibe which yells out ‘I’m only good as your friend as long as I get to stare at your beauty’ to him/her. This somehow eases the tension and atmosphere between the two too well to the point the word ‘platonic’ is the only option to keep seeing this ‘out of your league’ person.
Listening to my friend from the States, I let down my guard and started taking ‘dating’ to another level where I would date on an equally leveled basis. He/she would be as cool/awesome as I am and the fact that he/she would not want to continue our relationship is due to the fact that we cannot click and not due to the fact that he/she is way more hotter/good looking than me. With that, I’ve been able to date people without feeling as much of a failure after every rejects and finally, I got myself one person on planet Earth who is pretty much comfortable to be IN my circle of this ‘league’ that we mostly fear.
Movie: She’s out of my league
Leads: Jay Baruchel, Alive Eve
Director: Jim Field Smith
Liner: “You’re a moodle. A man poodle. Girls, they want to take you out on a walk. They want to feed you, they want to cuddle you. But make no mistake, no girls want to do the moodle.”
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